Starting a Relationship
Starting a relationship may be one of the most memorable things you can do for yourself in life. Whether it is a positive or negative experience is all about how you perceive it. Couples start out in the beginning with a certain flutter in their hearts about the other person.
It may be that twinkle in the eye or he or she may take your breath away. Either way, you want to get to know this person better, and in doing so you feel like you did not miss out on life.
In the beginning of any new relationship, the idea of getting to know each other, (which is a great experience by the way), has a certain moonlighting effect which remains for a while. This is good. This is the highest point in any new relationship and it feels the best. So don’t ever take this aspect of the relationship for granted because out of my experience, it will never come back.
This is the best time where you will have the most wonderful experiences together because you two are young and fresh into it. Nothing can compare to the most wonderful moments in the start of any new relationship. Just ask anybody and they will tell you the same each and every time.
That is why I say that when you get the fullest pleasure to experience it, embrace it and keep it in your head. Weather it may be holding hands, walking along the beach, or simply whispering into your partners ear for the first time the words, “I love you!”
The beginning of the relationship is where you will feel the most attention, affection and desire that you have for each other. That is why it is the most precious thing to understand when you first start a brand new relationship. The feeling just feels so damn good.
In my experiences and in hearing the accounts of others as well, I have noticed a slight drop or decrease in the amount of attention and affection that is primarily given in the beginning of a magical union. Why is this the case? Why do people suddenly let go or deteriorate the feelings of love even after the course of a few months to a year? There are a number of things that could indicate a change in a relational pattern.
Most often than not, life itself is the cause. In life, there are many changes that take place that can come into the mind of a couple or person. What we see on the television set, what we read in books, and who we meet may cause us to reconsider how important our relationship truly is and if it indeed is worth it to continue it or pursue other endeavors of interest.
The only way to know for sure is to jump right in to a relationship without any regrets and wish for the best. I mean, how are we ever going to know if we don’t try and find out for ourselves to see how it will all eventually turn out? But if you never take action and see how a relationship could truly be so memorable, whether the feelings are positive or negative, you will never know how in fact it will turn out. So, don’t be afraid to get your feet wet.
Don’t be one of those people that look at other couples, complaining to yourself why you are not with someone. Or even decide to wait for a partner to enter into your life if you don’t ever decide to step one foot out the front door. There is no doubt that in life, action can be one of your best friends. But if you don’t take action in trying to meet new people, you will never know the sweet bliss of entering into a union that is both satisfying, as well as memorable.
Intimacy and the touch of another person is healthy for people. The acts of affection and the subtle effects of caressing boosts the immune systems and carries along with it unforgettable thoughts of one another. The feeling alone can be priceless!
I use the word memorable a lot because that is what relationships are when they are over or when they have evolved into something very incredible. Yes, relationships are like flowers that grow in the sun, and in order to make it grow and bloom into marriage, it must be protected form the waves of life that can either destroy or strengthen a newly formed bond. The choice is yours and weather or not you ever choose the path of forming a union with someone or not will be ultimately up to you.
Always go in a with a positive note that there is something to learn and teach in a relationship. Two people can actually teach each other a lot of things when a love is formed. This can actually help a person and the couple to evolve in ways that makes life as perfect as can be.
So go for it, love what you are getting into and impress the hell out of them in the beginning so that they will always remember the good times that you have shared with each other. When the imprint of a memorable start of a relationship is set in, it will be hard for anyone to forget it.
“Long Distance Relationships”
They say that long distance romances create great relationships and I would have to definitely agree with this.
But how do you keep a long distance relationship going without losing it?
I have had my share of long distance relationships and all I can say that they have been truly wonderful.
Although sometimes it may be hard to keep one going for so long so you wonder how you can pull it off without losing the one you love.
In a long distance relationship you mind can create many wonderful ideas and feelings about your partner. Almost like that of a fantasy world. But what if it all went away one day because you couldn’t hold on to it.
While in the end it leaves you with so much despair and distress because the feeling that you once had with this person over the phone is now gone. This sure does make you want your lover more.
When you’re in love life is truly wonderful to experience
But what about when the one that you love is far and away?
Doesn’t your heart long for your lover’s touch, feeling, or that special look that make your heart really pound hard?
Do you ever sit around wishing your lover were there with you, when they really can’t be?
Have you ever worried about whether your partner is faithful when they are away from you?
Is the time apart spent being unproductive and useless in your mind?
If you are one of the many people in this world that has the privilege of enjoying a long distance relationship that you can learn more on how to keep a long distance relationship and make it last until it can effectively evolve into something more.
Are you in an exclusive relationship or would like to be in one. What if you are trying to hold on to an exclusive relationship?
Exclusive relationships are the most wonderful ones to have because it days that you want to take things a step further and progress to the next level in a relationship.
If you are in an exclusive relationship and you are wondering how to keep it, here are some pointers to follow:
Make sure that you partner is receptive to you and that you are giving them the attention that they need. In order for them to take you seriously, you need to consider what they are expecting out of you in return for their love and affection. To maintain this consider the aspects of what you want out of them and what you can give in return.
Taking your relationship to the next level may not always be easy for some couples. The fear of commitment and longevity in a relationship may or may not benefit them in the long run. That is why it is always important in the beginning of a relationship to known what you are wanting from each other in the first place. This is always very important to know.
You don’t want to be months in a relationship while the whole time he or she didn’t take you seriously or did not want to pursue anything further than the norm of your relationship.
The happiness and content that you can receive from an exclusive and full filling relationship can last you for years and a years if you take care of it properly.
“Insecurity in Relationships”
Are you dealing with uncertain insecurity in your relationship. Are you able to trust your partner or do you worry too much that he or she is getting the attention of another.
Insecurity in a relationship occurs when you or your partner does not trust you in life. You may feel that sometimes you are not good enough or you may require more affection and attention that your significant other may not be readily giving you.
There is nothing worse than realizing that the one you love has an interest for somebody else. This usually causes distress in a persons life that can be taken with them in their next relationship, thus the insecurity factor increasing each time.
If you have been hurt by someone in the past and are insecure with your current relationship, than it is time to let go of your past experience and move on to a more trustworthy relationship that you can build off of.
Here are some ways to alleviate insecurity in a relationship:
1. Trust your partner more. If they are with you then they love and want to be with you. Don’t feel so insecure because they are beautiful and you don’t want other prying eyes on your love property. You must be secure with yourself first.
2. Remember to not show signs of insecurity to your partner or spouse. This may lead them to stray away from you. A partner always love a certain sense of confidence about you. If you can maintain yourself properly than you have achieved a result that most insecure relationships have been experiencing for years.
3. Don’t let past experiences of insecurity in relationships bring you down. Don’t allow it to overcome your well being in your current relationship. Creating a reality of insecurity gets you exactly what you don’t want in your life right now.
4. Allow yourself to trust yourself more and to trust the one you love. It doesn’t have to be a game of insecurity each day. Don’t battle with it any longer. Maintain your confidence and your partner will admire you for that. Remember that insecure relationships don’t last until you can make yourself understand the concepts of trust, communication and to let go of past experiences that brought you to this stage in your life of insecurity.
Otherwise known as “Extraverted intuitive Feeling Perceiving”.
ENFPs tend to take their relationships quite seriously, and also approach them with a childlike enthusiasm and energy. They seek and demand authentic depth in their personal relationships, and will put forth much effort in making things work.
Energetic and effervescent, the ENFP is sometimes smothering in their enthusiasm, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and high ideals. ENFPs are affirming, nurturing, warm, considerate and quite invested in the health of their relationship. They have excellent interpersonal skills, and are able to motivate and inspire others to be the best that they can ever be.
Here are some of the strengths associated with ENFP relationships:
Very Fun to be with – lively sense of humor,
Dramatic, energetic, optimistic
Strive for “win-win” situations
Driven to meet others needs
Usually loyal and dedicated
Great communication skills
Very perceptive about people’s thought and motives
Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others
Warmly affectionate and affirming
Here are some of the weaknesses associated with ENFP relationships:
Dislike of criticism
Doesn’t pay attention to their own needs
Constant quest for perfect relationships may make them change relationships
Can become bored easily
Difficulty scolding or punishing others
Enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic in nature
Not interested in “mundane” matters like paying bills, cleaning etc.
Holds onto wrong relationships long after they’ve turned for the worst
Dislike of continuous conflict
Warm and considerate in nature, ENFP’s become some of the most passionate partners in a relationship. They are willing make the most out of it and put much effort in making the relationship a most positive experience. Other attributes to them are that they are quite loyal honest and faithful. They can tend to take their commitments very seriously and for good cause.
ENFP’s really do have a problem with ending relationships when they know when it is going no where They feel that if the relationship fails, it would be there fault because of all of the effort it took for them to save it from failing on numerous occasions. Perhaps cause other relationships have failed for them and they do not want to repeat the uncomfortable processes that occur if it does happen.
Always wondering if the other side is greener, ENFPs mostly generalize the idea many times to see if other relationships are much better than their current ones. They tend to become bored too easily if certain things are not necessitated from their partners. Those that are not focused will be very unhappy, and will eventually “exit” the relationship if the problem is not fully addressed.